“It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” – Mark Twain
Sometimes, when you make a mistake, what you need to do is to shut up and not make it worse.
Hard lesson to learn.
It’s counterintuitive, after all, because we often believe if we keep talking, keep explaining, that we’ll make ourselves understood.
People say to share your feelings, don’t keep them bottled up.
But people would rather chance losing everything than appearing a fool. In a civilized country, looking stupid is one of the worst things that a person can do. And yet, we find ourselves splayed out, slathered in emotion, exposing ourselves and regretting it even before the consequences unfold.
So my advice, like all other good advice, is to put a sock in it. Walk around the block instead of broadcasting your heartfelt feelings on the matter. Do some pushups. Write in your journal instead. Reinforce that wall around your heart until someone worthwhile breaches it with love, kindness, understanding. Never assume they are worthwhile. Let time pass. Remember you are not who are you in your lowest moments. Remember you deserve more.
You will make it.
Stop. Back away. Sit down,
Breathe some more.
I thought I needed religion, but the only church I considered following lacked confession. And then I remembered, all I need is writing.